When we confuse assertion with aggression, neutralize
otherness, adjust our longings, and reason away our hostility, we assemble a
calmness that is reassuring but not very exciting.
Stephen Mitchell makes
the point that the capacity to contain aggression is a precondition for the
capacity to love. We must integrate our aggression rather than eradicate it.
He explains, “The degradation of romance, the waning of desire, is due not
to the contamination of love by aggression, but to the inability to sustain the
necessary tension between them.”
This tension, be a source of energy and passion， when sustained, keeps the relationship alive and exciting, rather than letting it settle into a comfortable but dull routine felt flat and uninspiring
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