2025-01-20relation goes to calmness that is reassuring but not very excitingWhenweconfuseassertionwithaggression,neutralizeotherness,adjustourlongings,andreasonawayourhostility,weassembleacalmnessthatisreassuringbutnotveryexciting.StephenMitchellmakesthepointthatthecapacitytocontainaggressionis