A reporter asked an elderly couple,
一位记者访谈一对老夫妻
“How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?”
你们是如何维护65年的感情？
The woman’s reply blew me away.
这位女士的回复 令我震惊
She said
她说
“We were born in a time when if something was broken
我们出生的那个年代如果有什么东西坏了
we would fix it
我们会修复它
not just throw it away .”
而不是将它抛弃
Hearing her words made me pause for a second.
听到她的话，让我楞了一秒钟
No, no, more than just a second
不，不，不止一秒钟
cause it made me realize that
因为她让我意识到
what most people call love today
如今大多数人所说的爱
isn’t love at all.
其实根本不是爱
It’s possession.
是占有
And not to be a cynic
我并不是悲观者
but I feel most people in our generation
但我发现这个时代的大部分人
just don’t know the difference.
并不清楚（爱和占有）其中的不同
So, if you’re confused then stop saying, “I love you.”
所以，如果你感到困惑那就别再说“我爱你”
Don’t even fix your lips to make the sound.
甚至不要用嘴唇发出声音
You want to know the difference between love and possession?
你想知道爱与占有之间的区别吗？
true love is not blind.
真爱并不是盲目的
It has 2.0 vision.
它有着2.0的视力
And a loving relationship is not 50/50 either.
并且爱情关系也并不是5/5开
It is 100/100 a total commitment.
是彼此都100%投入，是完全的承诺
It’s not a trade or a balancing act.
爱不是交易，也不是维持平衡
It is all chips on the table your whole heart and that’s, that.
它是袒露你整个的真心
Do not fall into the trappings.
不要落入陷阱
Love says
爱会说
“I want you to be happy.”
我希望你快乐
Possession says
占有会说
“I want you to make me happy.”
我希望你让我快乐
Cause possession is actually the opposite of love
因为占有实际上是爱的对立面
its other name is addiction.
它的另一个名字是上瘾
Love has an alias too
爱也有别名
it goes by understanding and commitment.
叫做理解和承诺
See, while possession says, “me”
当占有说“我”的时候
Love says, “we”.
爱说我们
Possession is a cage
占有是牢笼
love is the sea.
爱是海洋
Possession wants to control
占有想要控制一切
Love wants to free.
爱是想要给予自由
Possession wants to become
占有想要改变（你）
love wants to be.
爱想要称为（你期望的）
Possession keeps receipts to remember its good deeds.
占有善于让你记住
Love does not keep score
但爱不计较分数
but remembers
但会记住
we are on the same team.
我们是在一起的
Possession hardens the heart.
占有让心僵硬
love softens it.
爱让内心柔软
Possession picks a flower out of the ground
占有从地上摘取花朵
but love waters it.
但爱则是浇灌花朵
Possession wants to hide
占有想要隐藏
love is vulnerable and expose.
爱是脆弱和公开
Possession sees the body;
占有只看外表
love sees the soul.
爱看的见灵魂
Love trusts the process.
爱相信过程
Possession controls the direction.
占有控制方向
Possession wants to win the argument.
占有想要赢得争论
Love desires to win connection.
爱渴望赢得沟通
Possession is filled with darkness
占有充满了黑暗
love, with sunlight.
爱则满是阳光
Possession says, “who’s right?”
占有说：“谁是对的？”
Love says, “what’s right?”
爱说：“什么是对的？”
Love is not sweaty palms or a pounding heart.
爱不是手心里出汗或心跳加速
No, it’s more of a calm explosion.
不，更像是一种平静的迸发
Possession destroys those who touch it.
占有摧毁那些碰触它的人
Love heals all who hold it.
爱能治愈所有拥有它的人
Possession is counterfeit.
占有是虚假的
Love is the only truth.
爱是唯一真实的
Possession fades away
占有会逐步消失
love is forever
爱永远不会消失
because it is absolute.
因为爱就是这么绝对
But look , nothing is perfect.
但是没有事情是完美的
Even love needs to be fed.
爱也需要喂养
A daily dose of forgiveness, understanding,
每天一点的宽容和理解
not just those empty words said.
而不仅仅是说空话
So, are you willing to persevere through tough times?
所以你愿意坚持下去熬过艰难时期吗？
And choose love every single day?
选择每一天去爱吗？
And you willing to fix things that are broken?
你愿意去修复那些坏了的东西吗？
And not just throw them away?
而不是抛弃它们
by Prince Ea
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